nothing more is important than this day. . .

weddings causes gladness and tender feeling to watch.  the wedding day itself gives the bride butterflies in their stomach and an itch to the tongue.  for sure, a lot of of you reading this entry are quite jaded with this kind of commitment.  to be honest i am one of those people who have grown to evade such.  a lot of things run through my mind. like, how could you possibly swear something about a time that is decades away?  how could you possibly be so sure that you and your partner will continue to grow together for the remainder of your lives and not grow apart?  why would you promise something you might not be able to fulfill?

two people meet for a particular reason. in many cases, two people are meant to share the remainder of their lives together.  marriage is a wonderful thing, to be with one person for as long as the relationship is of mutual benefit, to help each other grow, to explore life, to engage your minds in new areas.  but to remain together because of some recited obligation, long after you do not fit into each other’s life, long after you have stopped growing and have no common purpose - that is the same as signing a contract with an employer stating, “i will work here, in this job, until death do us part.“

in my own honest opinion, instead of promising to remain together forever, why not agree that you will be committed to each other as long as you can truly grow together, be there for each other, support each other’s individual growth, be a true friend to each other.  you deserve a partner who is truly your friend. why would you sacrifice your entire life to someone who deadens your senses rather than encouraging all of your senses to come alive?!  just because you made a promise at an altar does not mean you have to keep that promise at the cost of your self-worth, self-respect, self-esteem, or your goals, dreams, and life purpose.  honor your feelings. trust your perceptions.  reach beyond your own desires to understand what the other is trying to communicate. listen to their words, watch their actions, trust the feelings you pick up from them, and say it all out loud.  do not hold back.  be honest.  your pride is not as important as your personal truth, integrity, and happiness.

my apologies for boring you. don’t get me wrong though, i love going to weddings, or seeing people get married, take their vows.  i believe that if i happen to change my mind about marriage, i’m going to make sure that it’s for keeps and my last. cross your fingers for me!  oh, first things first - the right partner! hehehehe *wink*

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anyhow, what i’m about to share is all about commitment, love and respect that my friends candy and jaycee shares.

watch the same day edit of their lovely wedding by phoeben tecson that really touched my heart.  1:58 pinched my heart to the core. izzy with daddy, waiting for mommy at the altar *sigh*

i soooo love izzy here! sorry candy, she just stole your wedding *wink* look at those eyes. awwww, just melts my heart!

to my dearest candy, may you share everything with jaycee - including the housework! hehehe. to candy and jaycee, a toast to a wonderful start to a lifetime of deep love and commitment! *hugs*