beauty all around you. .

adding more romance to your life is easy, today — there is beauty all around you. adding more romance to your life doesn’t always mean turning up the heat on a love relationship. romance should be a part of everything in your life, in the truest sense of the word. today, try to ensure that what you see is beautiful, what you hear is mellifluous, and what you eat is delicious. give yourself the gift of pleasurable moments that you can look back at in the future. now’s a great time to splurge on yourself and make yourself feel extra-special..

that’s what my horoscope tells me a few days back. i was never a fan but i browse it just for the heck of reading it and it gives me an excuse to ponder about certain things in my life - like happiness. 

what is the good life? does money indeed buy happiness? i learned that the good life springs less from earning one’s first million than from loving and being loved. from developing the traits that mark happy lives, from finding connection and meaningful hope in faith communities, and from experiencing “flow” in work and recreation. materialism surged during the 70’s and 80’s. materialism was up, spirituality down. so believing that it is “very important” to be very well-off financially, and having seen our privileged circumstances ratchet upward little by little over four decades, are we now happier?

on a facet, someone i know (not personally though, but insists that i add her on my friendster account because according to this person, some people i know have no problem with her.) sent me a lovely post. let me enlighten you with her idea of happiness and blogging, here is her impression (unedited version, of course *wink*):

BLOGS - A blog (a contraction of the term “Web log”) is a Web site, usually maintained by an individual with regular entries of commentary, descriptions of events, or other material such as graphics or video. Entries are commonly displayed in reverse-chronological order. “Blog” can also be used as a verb, meaning to maintain or add content to a blog. - an on-line diary or frequently updated personal web page. Why does people fall into this way of communication and expressing one’s feeling one after another’s good and bad experience?? what happen to privacy? i guess it’s a matter of choice and opportunities like weblogs that accept it or not became a modern way of writing a diary. Don’t get me wrong, honestly, I was once a part of this online community and as a matter of fact I still am but in a more detached way in regards to more personal things that has and will happen to my life. You can never write something about yourself online and say it’s personal nor try to make it private coz newsflash it’ll never happen.

 

People tend to look at it in different ways. Some people finds it comforting , especially for those who are far away from their loved ones, well this is acceptable but there are this other kinds of people who write something out of boredom, loneliness, desperation or just simply for the sake of writing to get noticed. Which is their choice. The third type is all about being passionate of what they do, sharing and brainstorming of ideas, topics, opinions and life-experiences which is normal nowadays as you can see. You might be wondering where is this taking you.. basically nowhere. im just trying to give my point of view. From someone who can also write but is never blinded of what is written.

 

Someone I know , not personally though, has this weblogs about different emotions, ideas about certain things, most particulary her love life. Why does it matter to me you may ask? That’s the thing. How could someone call this weblogs private and personal when there is a way to dig it even if you’re not related? How did someone found it? or let say how did I found this blog? I wasn’t doing my research about this person instead I was trying to research more about the projects of my Bf and the net leads me to her blog?By my surprise I happen to see PRIVATE conversation of my bf and her exgf on this blog years ago (she was referring to this post). and yet she announces about moving on. Writing names in particular which made me wonder does she really knows what she’s doing?

marie louise, i find your words disagreeing with each other. if you give my header a bit of attention (and common sense), it says - “freedom is the right to live as we wish”. therefore, this is MY blog, MY business, MY happiness. i actually made the right choice of blocking you from my account/s. i wouldn’t want you to feel more timid about yourself. nevertheless, i thank you for your interest in MY life. this post is heartfully dedicated to you. i believe that somehow, you are a beautiful person, and you should focus more on your present situation rather than feeding yourself with unwanted thoughts about me.

the best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. because only then does one feel that all is as it should be and that God wishes to see people happy, amidst the simple beauty of nature.

[ anne frank ]

optimism, self-esteem, and perceived control over one’s life are among the traits that mark happy experiences and happy lives. happy people typically report feeling an “internal locus of control”—they feel empowered. when deprived of control over one’s life—an experience studied in prisoners, nursing home patients, and people living under totalitarian regimes—people suffer lower morale and worse health. severe poverty demoralizes when it erodes people’s sense of control over their life circumstances.

work and leisure experiences that engage one’s skills also enable the good life. between the anxiety of being overwhelmed and stressed, and the apathy of being underwhelmed and bored, lies a zone in which people experience flow—an optimal state in which, absorbed in an activity, they lose consciousness of self and time.

more than ever, we at the end of the last century were finding ourselves with big houses and broken homes, high incomes and low morale, secured rights and diminished civility. we are excelling at making a living but too often failing at making a life. we celebrated our prosperity but yearned for purpose. we cherished our freedom but longed for connection. in an age of plenty, we were feeling spiritual hunger.

so many things to say and ponder upon. but for now. .

pause a moment and think: what’s the most satisfying event that you have experienced in the last month?

til next post! ta-ta!