the games men play. . .

“why can’t they just be direct?” damon syson reveals why he’s messing with your mind..

in the old days, women were often accused of being irrational..”ladies never say what they really think’, men would grumble, accusing their partners of being capricious, flighty and thoroughly unpredictable..making sense of a woman, according to most chaps, was as easy as herding cats..

but as with so many things in modern life, the gender roles appear to have reversed..women-once responsible for mood-swings, mind-games and all-around emotional manipulation – are increasingly keen on cutting out the nonsense, rolling up their sleeves and getting on with a relationship..”these days,” one woman say, “i believe honesty is the best policy..if I meet a guy and like him, I tell him I like him and hope he likes me back..i can’t be bothered with all that “playing hard to get” rubbish anymore..”

what a blessed relief, you might think..unfortunately, in the meantime, men – those straightforward, direct, honest creatures – have transformed into bigger game-players than women ever were..thes days, getting a man to express what he really thinks is like getting a straight answer out of a politician..

the first and most obvious way men play games is by not phoning/texting/turning up when they said they would..admittedly, this is often simply because we are lazy, forgetful and are easily distracted (usually by food, sport, tv, other women etc) but increasingly, men use being frustrating incommunicado as a deliberate ploy to make ourselves seem more desirable..it’s our version of playing hard to get..

in our defense, there is some evidence that suggest that certain women bring out this sort of behavior in men..if a guy gets an inkling that you’re the tricksy, high-maintenance type of gal, he might decide that  pre-emptive strike is in order..he will start playing games first in order to have the upper hand..this is because he read in some silly men’s mag that “in the battle of the sexes, attack is the best form of defense.”

men are paranoid, you see, and he will be convinced that to keep your interest, he has to make himself seem mysterious, moody and generally difficult (don’t blame us, blame jane austen)..for the modern make, this is achieved simply by turning your mobile phone off for long periods..when you ask him where he’s been he just raises his eyebrows, shoots you an enigmatic look and says something like: “you know, babe..here and there, taking care of business,” thus inferring that he’s been on shady assignations with a variety of other “chicks” when in reality he’s been round at his mom’s eating jam sandwiches and watching tv..

the second way of messing with your mind is by blowing hot and cold..one minute he’s treating you like a goddess, the next minute you have all the allure of a private hedge..now the first thing to note is that when a man is in the throes of a lust attack, he will say or do ANYTHING if he thinks it’ll get him what he wants..the problem is, lust passes, and in the cold light of day, you might find that he’s lost interest..sorry, we have woefully short attention spans..

alternatively, he might be thinking, “i quite fancy her but im not really in the market for a long-term relationship”..who knows, you could be thinking exactly the same thing, but old-fashioned type that he is, he assumes that ALL women are in constant pursuit of nothing less than a husband..if he doesn’t see himself putting a ring on your finger in the future he will suddenly pull back to avoid finding himself in a situation he can’t extricate himself from..

one of the games men love to play most is flirting with other women-in front of you..they are probably the kind of men who think you’ll be impressed by a flash car..it’s insecurity, plain and simple..laughably, he probably thinks you’ll be impressed by his “way with the ladies” rather than insulted and let down..

finally, it should be stressed that in most cases, men play games because we’re petrified of making a fool of ourselves..most of us have opened our hearts to a woman in the past..only to have it stamped on..and we have all pined for an unattainable goddess only for her to jump into the arms of some leery chancer who treats her like dirt..so the moment we find ourselves getting gooey over a woman, our defense mechanism kicks in and we start being cold or acting weird..

give him a bit of time, he will snap out of it once he feels more secure..if he doesn’t, and the games continue, he probably isn’t worth the bother..we all like to play, but sooner or later it has to be games over or it’s Game Over..